Mother's Day Wishes
By Jan Withers | May 11, 2012| 5 Comments | Filed in: Drunk Driving

This year marks the 20th Mother’s Day since I lost my daughter Alisa Joy. The best gift a mother can have is to be with her children on this special day. In the early years after her death, I struggled with her absence, even as I was loved by my remaining family. But gradually, the realization came to me that I was still her mother and no one could take that from me. I still miss her, but she is forever in my heart. She is, and will always be my Joy.

Life is like an onion and we’re always peeling back a new layer.  One of Alisa’s close friends, Leana, called me on this year’s anniversary of her death just last month. Like Alisa would be, she is now a thirty-five and has a baby of her own. While it is bittersweet because I miss the grandchildren that Alisa might have given me, I treasure that her friends still share their lives and families with me. In this case, Leana shared that how as a new mother she had gained perspective on how Alisa’s loss had affected me.   Somehow this cycle of life comforts me because even though I can’t touch her, Alisa is still part of that cycle and part of me.    

For mothers whose child has been killed by a drunk driver, Mother’s Day can be especially painful.  If we have other children, it is a day filled with bittersweet emotions.  The gratitude we feel for the beautiful gift of sharing life with our surviving children is joyful.  At the same time, the longing for our deceased child is an agony that constantly tugs at our hearts.  My friends who have no surviving children tell me they feel a deep emptiness on Mother’s Day.

Yet, love never dies.  All of us are grateful for the precious time we were given with our children who have died.  I send wishes to every mother for a day filled with warm memories, special moments and peaceful joys.  Love lives forever. 

Warmly,
Jan Withers


   

Comments

Submitted by richardgoodnewsservice@yahoo.com at 12:16 AM on May 15, 2012
I am Richard Howard From Chicago, and i see a serious problem about. drunk driving i have a suggestion, that would save a lot of lives if we could pass a law that all automobile manorfactor would install in all motor vehicles a unit that every person that get behind wheel would have to blow into the unite, and if he or she achol level is beyond the limit, the vehicle when you start it will not go in gear. let's send this message to the president
Submitted by lora strickland at 04:25 PM on May 12, 2012
happy mothers day and my prayers and thoughts are with u on this mothers day blessings
Submitted by Cosenza at 11:10 PM on May 11, 2012
My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Submitted by Heartbroken Mom at 05:52 PM on May 11, 2012
This will be my first Mother's Day without my son not sure how I will handle it. It all seems so unreal. Going to try to make the best of it and be Thankful I still have a remaining son and with the help of God I will make it through. Praying for all who have lost a child or family member to a drunk driver.
Submitted by Robin at 04:44 PM on May 11, 2012
Dear Mr. Hallmark, I am writing to you from heaven, and though it must appear A rather strange idea, I see everything from here. I just popped in to visit, your stores to find a card A card of love for my mother, as this day for her is hard. There must be some mistake I thought, every card you could imagine Except I could not find a card, from a child who lives in heaven. She is still a mother too, no matter where I reside I had to leave, she understands, but oh the tears she’s cried. I thought that if I wrote you, that you would come to know That though I live in heaven now, I still love my mother so. She talks with me, and dreams with me; we still share laughter too, Memories our way of speaking now, would you see what you could do? My mother carries me in her heart, her tears she hides from sight. She writes poems to honor me, sometimes far into the night She plants flowers in my garden, there my living memory dwells She writes to other grieving parents, trying to ease their pain as well. So you see Mr. Hallmark, though I no longer live on earth I must find a way, to remind her of her wondrous worth She needs to be honored, and remembered too Just as the children of earth will do. Thank you Mr. Hallmark, I know you’ll do your best I have done all I can do; to you I’ll leave the rest. Find a way to tell her, how much she means to me Until I can do it for myself, when she joins me in eternity. By Jody Seilheimer This is my 3rd Mother's Day, without my beautiful, Ramie Renee'. An unknown person sent this to me today & I wanted to share...to all the Mom's who miss their child.

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