In Our Hearts
By Jan Withers | February 4, 2013| 6 Comments | Filed in: National President , Victim Services

On a TV show I watched recently, a young woman was clinging to a pink felt heart.  Her friend pointed to it and asked, “What’s this about?” The woman responded, “It was sewn on a teddy bear that I carried around everywhere when I was a child.  I never let go of that bear.  I finally wore it out, and this heart is all I have left,” she replied.  He very gently responded, “You have the best part.”  He then pulled a tiny piece of paper from his wallet.  It was from a Chinese fortune cookie she had given him the first time they met.  On it was written, “Today’s new friend is tomorrow’s family.”

This month, many of us whose loved ones were killed by impaired driving will pull out Valentine cards that are now—like my heart’s feelings—a little tattered around the edges.  My eyes often fill with tears as I think, “this is all I have left of Alisa.  I want more.” 

But then, Alisa’s lovely spirit tiptoes to the front of my heart.  You see I carry her in my heart, everywhere I go.  She has always been there—before she was born, to the time that she danced around us on this earth, and even now when her beautiful spirit lives in my heart, as it does in so many others.  I never let go of that girl.

On Valentine’s Day—and every day—remember that our loved ones live on in our heart.  In our hearts… that’s the best place, now.   I am so grateful for all of the gifts Alisa continues to give me, and I am sure that your loved ones fill your heart with gifts of love, too.  May your Valentine’s Day give you warm moments of lovely memories. 

Each of us connects to MADD for our own reasons, and so we are connected to one another.  I cherish our bond as I cherish every one of you.   On this Valentine’s Day, whether or not we have met in person, I thank you for being in my life. Today’s new friend is tomorrow’s family.  How true that is. 

Warmly,
Jan


   

Comments

Submitted by Joy at 09:32 AM on February 20, 2013
Jan, that was a most beautiful Valentine's message about Alyssa and all of our loved ones. Keeping their lovelights burning in our hearts everyday is the way forward. Warmest wishes! Joy Wolfram, College Park, Md.
Submitted by A mom in Fayetteville, North Carolina at 11:30 AM on February 11, 2013
Thank you for this message of hope and faith. I know we will see our children and loved ones again. Seven and a half years have gone by since I have seen, heard or touched my son Jackson. I carry with me a jute bracelet he gave me for Mother's Day years ago. Woven into the strands of jute are small blocks of letters that spell the word FAITH. It is FAITH that keeps me getting out of bed each day . . .FAITH that we will see and hold our precious children again some day. And thank you and the others at MADD for helping us survive the worst tragedy a parent can fathom.
Submitted by grim at 10:02 AM on February 11, 2013
dont drink and drive u can really stuff up peoples life even yours . i used to do it but thankfully i saw the light and never hurt anyone . the thought of that just chills me
Submitted by Anonymous at 08:37 AM on February 11, 2013
It is a wonderful message for those of us with only memories to share on Valentines Day. It gives us courage to take one more step. Herman Beach Huntsville, AL
Submitted by Patc at 08:54 PM on February 9, 2013
You will never win this war on drunk drivers, until you get the facts out . Put letters in the renewel of drivers license and registrations, warning that some people collecting S.S. discontinues. Wife may trouble getting. Do you people get the message?
Submitted by Anonymous at 03:54 PM on February 5, 2013
Jan - what a beautiful message, Alisa and my Jennifer are powerful forces that keep us moving forward to eliminate drunk driving - thank you for all you do. Judy Utter Sacramento, CA

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