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Pinwheels: Harness the Wind
By MADD | May 13, 2013| 7 Comments | Filed in: Victim Services

Tragedy is like wind. You can’t see it, but it is there, pushing us forward and holding us back.  When the wind gusts; how strong it blows; the direction from which it comes – are all aspects of wind that we cannot predict or prevent, representing the uncontrollable nature of tragedy. And, as the direction of the wind changes, life can spin out of control.

Pinwheels represent our opportunity to harness the wind – to control the seemingly uncontrollable. In Chinese culture, the pinwheel is considered an instrument to turn obstacles into opportunities. So we blow our pinwheels to symbolize us taking control of the healing journey in our lives.

Much like the uniqueness of a pinwheel, the healing journey of each and every person is different. There simply is no right or wrong way to feel. For some remembering brings more pain than solace, and for others, talking about the tragedy is helpful.

This week in honor of the 25th anniversary of the Kentucky Bus crash, we come together to take control of the wind and turn our pain into strength. Participate in our virtual pinwheel display and share a message about your personal healing journey or a message for the 27 killed and 34 injured in the Kentucky bus crash on May 14, 1988—the most deadly alcohol-related crash in U.S. history.

Click here to participate in the virtual pinwheel display and share your message. You can also make your own pinwheel, using the video instructions below. Our hope is that as your pinwheel blows, you will remember to focus on the control that you do have.




Submitted by Mae at 01:25 PM on May 16, 2013
I niece, Kenya Gillingham, was killed by a drunk driver. I cannot see why people have and continue to consume alcohol. There is no respect for another person's life--total disregard.
Submitted by joeinger at 12:35 AM on May 16, 2013
Jed submitted his comment at 11:28 PM on May 14, 2013. It was Dr. Charles R. Parker commenting that we see alcohol products supporting televised sporting events and other influences affecting the approval even encouraging the use of alcohol to be popular. Now we even see talk show hosts on TV openly joking about drinking it right in our faces on live TV. I remember some years ago when the Federal Communications Commission (FCC) forbad, not only the use of it on TV; but, also the selling (commercials) of alcoholic beverages on TV and radio. Have the FCC rules for licensing broadcasters changed or is the FCC no longer enforcing the rules? How does this happen without some Congressional Committee's approval or have they approved this? Money, Money, Money can buy anything these days. Someone has to be accountable. Joe Inger (been concerned for a long time)
Submitted by Jed at 11:28 PM on May 14, 2013
I'm sorry for your loss. I am a retired univ. professor and public school psychologist. One signifcant way to prevent tragedies like this one would be to require high school students to take mandatory half year course in Child Development and a half year course in Family Relations. Part of the curriculum would be to inform future parents and spouses why people drink and how they are manipulated by the media to drink. I am a sports fan. I've noticed most sporting commericals are sponsored by some corporation related to alcohol. They are trying to teach men that it is manly to drink. I'm in the process of trying to get the Child Development and Family Relations courses implemented. Again, I'm sorry for your tragic loses. Dr. Charles R. Parker Fort Pierce, Florida
Submitted by Micki at 05:00 PM on May 14, 2013
I offer my condolences to those who lost loved ones due to that tragedy. I cannot feel your personal pain--no one can, but I know of it through my loss of my lovely fourteen-year-old daughter, Noelle,killed by a drunk driver, who was later sentenced for vehicular homicide. My husband and remaining five children could not speak of our loss so I wrote and wrote. This lead to many short stories published about the incident in newspapers, membership in MADD in NYC, speaking on local cable TV on the driving drunk issues, and at local PTA meetings plus having my book endorsed by MADDvocate magazine and reviewed by John M. Evans, National Victim Services Training Manager in Irving, Texas. He was so impressed by my book about the incident called . . . And the Whippoorwill Sang that we became friends. It's been 30 years and none of us ever can forget--nor do we want to--each of us having DWI losses must try to find ways to stop the senseless deaths of young lives. Every victim has a story to tell--my book was written for each of them as well as a deathbed promise to my own child. I will continue writing about the issue of drunk driving as long as I live and do everything in my power to prevent the loss of lives. My award-winning book by Nesta CBC, for writing that impacts upon the world, has changed the lives of those reading it and many teenagers read it and don't drive and drink; their parents become more aware of just how quickly it can happen to them and take measures to try and prevent that. Working together in the various ways we can, drunk driving destruction will/must come to an end.
Submitted by Gina at 01:19 PM on May 14, 2013
No words can express how sorry Iam to hear your lose, my only hope is that your loved ones did not die in vain. I hope their story and their deaths will serve a greater purpose and possibly educate people not to drink and drive and touch people in away that will prevent people from carelessly taking the lives of others in such a selfish way. I pray for a better day, with no blood shed, caused by drunk drivers; Gina Whitacre -Substance Abuse Clinician
Submitted by Mama Bambi at 10:33 AM on May 14, 2013
This is an amazing idea !!! Love It, gonna have the whole family make one :)
Submitted by Katie B at 10:21 AM on May 14, 2013
My spouse's family was almost destroyed by Alcohol and when our children began to grow and multiply ( 5) my spouse wanted to find some answers so his children would not be influenced by his older brother and create problems for our family. We joined a group called Al-Anon in addition we were introduced to MADD. Between the two non of the 5 children have alcohol problems and now at middle age, their children have had the same influence from their parents and as far as I know there is no alcohol abuse in the family. My point is : they are all willing to drive cautiously and support the work that MADD is doing to curtail "driving while drunk" and suitable punishment if and when they do. They have all the Al-Anon books that give a brief description of what you can do and what works in most cases. In this way they support the drunk driving laws in their state of resident. Madd does work and if you add Al-Anon ( a not for profit - no name used group) in your area you will find there are lots of people who will support MADD to include those who are not affiliated with any organization at this time once they know there are many steps they can take to take care of their families. Spent many hour's in local court where drunk driving was the subject - supporting local law enforcement officers. As a widow now and on limited income, all I can do is support with word and deed the help of Madd and what it is trying to do. Keep Up the great work. Katie

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