Decades ago, I raised my beautiful daughter, Kristy Staley.
Today, due to a selfish individual's choice to drive while drugged impaired, I am raising her children — Marissa, who doesn't remember the mother she lost at 18 months of age and Marcus, who was five when his mom dropped him off at daycare and never returned.
The day after the crash, a woman with Mothers Against Drunk Driving® walked into my life, handed me a coffee and said she was just going to "hang out a bit." Honestly, I don't know how far I could have gone without her — and that's why I am reaching out to you.
Every victim deserves an advocate like her, but, sadly, with more than 10,000 deaths a year and 290,000 injured victims, MADD simply doesn't have enough resources. Will you consider making a donation to Mothers Against Drunk Driving today to ensure victims like me get the support they need?
My advocate was there when I was constantly burning dinner because Marissa cried for hours on end if I didn't hold her. She sat next to me every single day in court while we heard how my Kristy struggled for 45 minutes without help, and she helped keep me focused on the children instead of the hole in my heart.
I cannot imagine what it would have been like to go through this unimaginable loss without her, and it breaks my heart that MADD doesn't have the resources to provide every single victim and survivor with such a caring and helpful advocate.
You can help victims by donating to MADD today. It may not be flashy or seem like much, but my advocate enabled me to survive. This is the gift your donation provides.
In memory of Kristy Staley,
Brenda Staley, a mother who misses her daughter and stands in on her behalf for Marissa and Marcus.P.S. The offender, who received 16 years in jail, is up for parole in August. I'll be there to speak up for Marcus and Marissa and for their mother. Help MADD be there for victims like me. Please consider donating today.
Do you try to make your mom proud?
|Joshua with a picture of his mom, Kelly, who was killed by a drugged driver.|
Every morning, I move my bowl to the sink like she taught me. At school, I pay attention to my teachers, because she said education was important. And at night, I say my prayers, remembering to be grateful for all I have.
I think I make my mom, Kelly Tisdale, proud…but I don’t know for sure. A drugged driver killed her as she crossed the street five years ago when I was eight years old. So, I am doing something I KNOW she would be proud of me for – I am asking you to honor all moms by giving to Mothers Against Drunk Driving today.
I always imagined being an adult meant making good decisions. How could an adult decide it was okay to drive after taking drugs? How could the offender drive off after hitting my mom? How was I supposed to keep living without her?
Grandma says Mothers Against Drunk Driving® stepped in to help her understand and prepare for the court case. She says they helped her find someone for me to talk to about my mom. They helped us keep going. That’s why I am hoping you will make a donation today.
When your mom is killed, you need someone like MADD to be there for you. They have helped nearly one million victims and survivors like me at no charge. I want them to be there for the next scared little boy.
My name is Joshua, and I am 14 years old. A drugged driver stole my mom from me. We need our moms. Please give to MADD today.
Thank you to everyone who gave in support of securing the lifesaving power of in-care breathalyzers across the country.
In-car breathalyzers, or ignition interlocks, prevented 955 drunk driving attempts every TEN minutes in the last year – and, thanks to you, they will continue to make our roads and highways safer.
Thanks to generous donors, we have the ability and opportunity to press hard in the 22 remaining states without this lifesaving protection.
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For 2017, we’ve hit the ground running. We’ve been working hard in Florida to pass an all-offender ignition interlock law. We are working in Massachusetts and Wisconsin, too.
Today, we have this protection in 28 states and the District of Columbia. I personally thank you for this compassionate, lifesaving gift, and I pledge to maximize the good it can do so that others don't experience the devastation caused by this 100% preventable crime.
Once more, thank you to everyone who joined in supporting our efforts.
For the past seventeen of twenty-five years in law enforcement, I have worked for the Irving Police Department in Irving, Texas. Irving is located in Dallas County which is one of the highest counties in the State of Texas for DWI related crashes and arrests, second only to Harris County (Houston).
The first two years of my career in Irving, I was assigned to the patrol division and for the last fifteen years I have been assigned to the nighttime DWI Unit as one of five DWI enforcement officers or traffic homicide investigators. My primary function is to investigate any drug or alcohol related intoxication assault or manslaughter cases.
When I’m not working on those types of cases, I roam the nearly 80 miles of highway Irving has looking for impaired drivers in an effort to reduce or eliminate these types of crashes. It’s a job that I take very seriously and one that I can say truly makes a difference every day our team of dedicated professionals come to work!
As DWI officers, I truly believe that we have the most important job within the police department. I know many other officers will say this about their specific fields of expertise as well, but let me explain why DWI enforcement is so important. Stopping impaired drivers is the only job that you really do make a lifesaving difference every day you come to work.
When you think about it, intoxicated driving is the only offense across this great nation that can go from a low level misdemeanor to a high level felony in literally the blink of an eye.
Unfortunately when it does, that means someone is seriously injured or has lost their life as a result of an intoxicated driver.
Officers who are assigned to DWI Units around the nation have a commitment in their field that is second to none within law enforcement. Any officer who gets transferred to our DWI Unit recognizes that this position is not based on seniority, great working hours or days off, and that they can expect that they will be working every major holiday or event due to high alcohol consumption.
An officer knows going into this field that there is a lot of specialized training to be an effective officer. Our Unit sends officers to Standardized Field Sobriety Instructor School (SFST), Drug Recognition Expert (DRE), Commercial Vehicle Enforcement (CVE), and Crash Reconstruction School to give the officers the knowledge they need to more effective on the road. This is true dedication to your profession.
With all the training that comes with the job, we constantly have to go through re-certification classes to keep up with the changing trends. Case law for our specific field is ever changing and evolving and new and improved enforcement techniques are constantly being sought after.
Being a DWI enforcement officer means many hours away from our families during the holidays. When other people get additional time off from work to celebrate, DWI officers get additional days to work to help keep our roadways safe from intoxicated drivers. Unfortunately, we are far outnumbered by intoxicated drivers, but we give it our all in an effort to make sure everyone has the opportunity to get home safely.